Musings on Motivation
This morning, as I sit in the quiet, as I sit in the calm of a post-vacation body, as I rest in the moment, as I stretch beyond want of doing, as I be… I am.
Over the past week, I’ve pondered the simple question of what motivates and what dissolves such desires into merely the crumbs that get brushed off of the table – as though a nuisance. The (simple) answer? Relationships; the pleasure of them and the avoidance of pain incurred by them. Connection, disconnection, reconnection. Want of any of these or resistance to a current state creates dis-ease. When teetering on the edge of disharmony, our physical body begins to tighten. It protects itself by curling up into a ball. Tushy ticked, our sense of balance is thrown off. Low backs become sore. Fatigue sets in as the diaphragm constricts. Pain builds as the shoulders sink forward into the collar bones. The belly becomes distended and disrupts our internal flow.
This doesn’t mean that motivation or pleasure-seeking/pain-avoidance is “bad.” Undefining which state is best in any situation and exploring instead where our deepest happiness lies and moving towards it, the mind quiets, the body receives, and our soul finds its fire. While relationships with other beings, our environment, ourselves, food, money, and God are the core motivating factor in every human choice, there must be an effortlessness. There must be a fearlessness. We must let love lead.
In my own life, the relationships that motivate me are those I have with my children and husband, the ones I have with my body, mind and God, and the one I have with the community I serve. And when I’m at my most grounded, I attend to these with an inspired effortlessness and fearlessness.
Take a moment. What relationships motivate you to be happy, healthy, holy or wholly connected? What would life be like if you approached them from a space of love?
Hands at prayer
A single breath